9 things calm people do differently
Frequently losing your cool, overreacting, and possess a general inability to let things go? Sounds like you’ve fallen victim some seriously stressful situations -- and we totally feel for you. But if you want to take hold of your passion and remain chill, there are a number of things calm people regularly do you can rinse and repeat to find your inner zen.
Calm people have this coveted characteristic of being able to remain focused and get on with what’s needed in situations that have you pulling hair out and clutching at a glass of pinot gris. But before you go dismissing it as something that you inherit, calmness is actually a habit. One that can be learned, developed and practiced every single day.
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1. They meditate
Mindfulness is complete acceptance of the experience. Being mindful isn’t something that happens just during meditation; it’s an attitude that calm people bring to their day time and night time -- and regular meditation allows to strengthen and refine one’s ability to be mindful.
2. They unplug
Calm people are prepared to put their phones away and be present. The constant stream of alerts, texts, and emails, blowing up your notification centre places undue stress on you and your time. By disconnecting regularly, be it in the evenings or on holiday, calm people are better equipped to to find some mental space and tune in to what really matters.
3. They practice gratitude
Calm people focus on the good times just as much - if not more - as they do life’s let downs and setbacks. When we’re constantly turning our focus to life’s many inevitable and tiny burdens, like running late, someone cutting you off, someone getting your coffee order wrong, or being caught out with a parking ticket, we forget about all of our blessings. While not all calm people have gratitude journals, chances are that they’re routinely reflecting on what’s good in their lives rather than what’s bad.
4. They wake at the same time every day
Though the waking time may vary from calm person to calm person, you can count on them waking up at the same time every day. Keeping a consistent waking time reinforces and strengthens your circadian rhythm and in doing so increases productivity and one’s ability to remain calm and centred.
5. They use visualisation
Much like meditation, calm people also use visualisation to keep their mind and body relaxed during times of pressure or anxiety. When faced with emotions that can take away from their focus - and ultimately a desired outcome from any given situation - calm people call on visualisation to increase their preparedness and confidence. Why? Because the nervous system doesn’t recognise the difference between real success and imagined success. Imagine what you could do with all that positive brain power?
6. They take breaks, prioritise sleep, and make time for self-care
Instead of caving in to the demands of those around them, calm people set boundaries and place a greater value on their own time. They’re prepared to prioritise their downtime ensuring they get ample moments to relax, sleep and indulge in activities they find restorative.
7. They practice self-compassion
Calm people are nothing without their self-compassion. Not only does a road of self-compassion lead them to greater life satisfaction, happiness and motivation, but it also makes them more resilient when they’re faced with stressful events. With self-compassion, we learn to speak to ourselves like a good friend. Where mindfulness asks, “What am I experiencing right now?” Self-compassion asks, “What do I need right now?” People who practice self-compassion are also less likely to ruminate on how bad things are.
8. They remain in the present
Who’s lost time or sleep to worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet? Our minds love to feed us with stories about the past and future, convincing us of all the things that can go wrong. Calm people choose to let these stories pass and instead focus on the present. One’s ability to stay connected to the moment and refraining from predicting the outcome before its happened can be the difference between success and failure. So, why chance it? Stay present.
9. They’re creatures of routine
Being mindful during mundane tasks like dishwashing or colouring can keep us calm. According to Headspace, doing the dishes by hand every evening without fail is a source of calmness for billionaires Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos. So instead of looking at routine tasks and tedious, look at them as moments for mindfulness. Reframe boring chores as free passes to literally ponder about nothing (or anything) and before you know it, you’ll be feeling zen and the dishes will be done. Talk about blissful thinking.
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Do you consider yourself a calm person?